Do Not Try to Please Anyone But Yourself

I know, I know... The title may seem selfish at first. However, putting yourself first is not selfish at all. Especially if you are know to be a people pleaser.

I had to personally learn over the years that you can not please people. No matter how accurate you do something, there will always be one person that will not be happy. You can not stress over what someone will not like or will be displeased with. This includes family and friends. This is your life to live, not your parents, family members or friends. Stop letting people try and live their lives through you. It is not your responsibility.

This is not to say that you should reject  advice from people. But remember that the ultimate decision is yours. You do not want to look back on life with regrets because you did what others expected or wanted to do. Life is too short to be trying to please everyone but yourself.

Just a few words of knowledge from someone who is learning this for herself.


Ya Girl,

Young, Flyy & Educated.

Interesting Poem of The Day

Happy Sunday-

I found this poem online today and thought it would be an interesting read to share. The author is unknown.

Hope you take something away from reading it.

Sistas Let's Stop Hatin' On Each Other...

Ok...so I walk in and you see me. You see that my hair is done, my
outfit is fierce and I carry myself like a lady. I smile at you but
you roll your eyes at me, then, turn your head and whisper something to
your girl. Why you hatin'?

Ok... so maybe I'm a new employee and this is my first day at work. I
almost thought I would be the only sista in the joint until someone
introduced us to each other. I smile and extend my hand, happy to know
I won't be here alone. You smile and shake my hand but there's
insincerity in your eyes and your hand is limp. You seem guarded.

What's wrong Ma'?

Ok ...so maybe my man and I have been having problems. And since
you've been my best friend for years I confide in you that I think he's
cheating on me. You offer your support. Until I find out that he's
been cheating on me....with you! Why would you hurt me like that?

I found your knife, girl.....it's in my back!

As women we battle daily. We battle keeping our families together,
keeping our men happy and maintaining our presence in the workforce.
With all that battling going on why in the world should we have to
battle each other?

Now I'm not saying every sistah has a knife...but some of you
do....and you know who you are. Why is it that a woman can't get
her glamour on without you having a problem? Why can't I get a
blonde weave without you having something to say?
If I'm working myself to death in the office
trying to climb the corporate ladder...why am I suddenly a sellout?
If I leave the room for a minute why can't I trust you around my man?
Smiling in my face, but gossiping all my personal business behind
my back? You now have permission to consider yourself triflin'!

Inferiority Complex. It makes us feel that in order to be someone
special we have to put everyone else beneath us. Are we so insecure in
ourselves that we can't feel good until we pull someone else down?

There's something wrong here. We've come to envy those who've
accomplished in their lives what we've only dreamed of having for
ourselves. And when we fear we will never be able to get what we want
- we steal it.

There is a serious self-worth issue going on here. We're in a day and
age where we should be encouraging each other and holding each other
up.

Sisterhood should not end when Oprah goes off. Truth be told, there
will always be someone prettier, sexier, stronger, and smarter. I'm sorry
Boo - that's just the way it is. But that's ok.....just do you!

I don't care how good Beyonce' looks - if she walks into the same room
I'm in, it doesn't make me any less of the diva I already am! I love
admiring hairstyles...but there's no need to be jealous. Honey,
nowadays there's enough hair for err-body.

I have goals in life. There are things I strive to attain. Yet I seek out
successful sisters because they keep me motivated.

Life is so much more than who looks the best, who dresses the best and
who makes more money. So when you see your sister going for hers let
it inspire you .... To do you.
 

~ Author Unknown ~

Common Fitness Misconceptions and The Truth of It All.

With summer right around the corner, many people are trying to get into shape. One main way of losing weight is through exercise and fitness along with eating healthier. But with so much information out there, how do you know what is the truth and what is myth.

Below are a few common misconceptions and the real truth regarding the matter.

Misconception #1: All fat is bad!
Truth: Your body actually needs a certain amount of fat for vital functioning. It also helps slow down the aging process and satisfies your hunger for longer periods of time. The key is knowing the difference between healthy and unhealthy fats and how to replace the unhealthy fats with healthier options.

Misconception #2: A calorie is a calorie whether it comes from a bowl of ice cream or a bowl of celery.
Truth: Calories that are consumed from fatty foods are more likely to cause weight gain than those consumed from eating carbohydrates. Your body uses less energy to process and store dietary fats than dietary carbohydrates.

Misconception #3: Exercise is the only sure way to lose weight. ( Not considering weight loss surgeries)
Truth:  Weight fluctuations are impacted by many things including dietary intake, exercise and genetics.Though adjustments made in any of these areas can deliver positive health effects, weight is most efficiently lost using a balance combination of both diet and exercise.
* Reminder: Regular physical activity is a very important component to successfully maintaining a healthy lifestyle.

Misconception #4: I can burn fat from specific regions of my body by just exercising those areas.
Truth: Spot reduction is not possible as many will like you to believe. When you exercise, your body utilizes energy produced by metabolizing fat from all regions of the body, not just the specific muscles involved in the exercise.

Misconception #5: If there is no pain, there is no gain. If I do not feel sore the next day, I did not work out hard enough.
Truth: Soreness may actually result from tiny tears in the muscle tissue and may indicate overdoing it. Listen to your body is hurt. You may have to discontinue that particular exercise.

Hopefully the truth shall set you free :) There are more misconceptions out there, so just do your research.

* Talk to a fitness professional or your doctor to get clarity on what is myth and what is fact so that you can work on getting that body you always wanted.

How to Cope with Negative Coworkers

Taken from my Hubpages: :http://spierce86.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-Deal-with-Negative-Coworkers

At work, there are always coworkers that are constantly negative. They complain about how much they hate their job, fellow employees and bosses. They exude negativity. We are not talking about generally positive people who have negative thoughts at times or ones who are legitimately complaining about something. If you spend too much time with them, it will affect you demeanor as well.

How do you deal with negative coworkers. Here are a couple of suggestions to help you cope.

1) Deal with generally negative people by spending as little time as possible with them.

2) Remember that the cause of their long term negativity is not your concern. Positive people do not allow the negativity of others to affect their attitude.

3) If you are forced , through your role in the company, to deal with them, do not allow yourself to be drawn into negative discussion.

4) Avoid providing a sympathetic audience for the negativity.

5) Suggest that the negative person seek assistance from Human Resources or the supervisor.

6) If all else fails, talk to you supervisor or HR about the challenges you may have to deal with when working with negativity.

7)If negativity among employees at your company is persistent, the issues that causes the negativity are left unaddressed or if the negativity affects your ability to complete your work, you may have to consider moving on. Sometimes, it is the work culture that is creating the negativity among employees.

At either rate, the goal is not to let the work culture or negative employees affect your positive disposition.

It's A New Year... Hello Everyone

Wow... its almost the end of the first month in 2012 and I haven't blogged in a few months. The page can definitely use some updating lol. New Blogs will be coming up shortly. The month of February will feature Black History Month Spotlights, which will be featured once a week. There will also be changes to the content and design of the website. Stay tuned for all the new changes coming your way.

If you would like to be featured on this blog, feel free to email me at aspiring4excellence@gmail.com

Much Respect,

Young, Flyy & Educated.

Need Your Feedback

I am back after a long break. I appreciate all the visits to read the bog. The design and layout is under construction. New blogs will be up soon.

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Young, Flyy  & Educated

Where Have I Been? LMAO

Where have I been? Haven't blogged in a month. I have been writing articles on HubPages and trying make things happen. Recently started working full time again, which can drain you. I am still an entrepreneur first. In this economy, you MUST have multiple streams of income. I repeat this is a must. I appreciate all the people who visit and read my blogs.

You can check out some of my newer blogs on the following Hub Pages site: http://spierce86.hubpages.com/

Till next time,
Young, Flyy & Educated